Love is Patient

I am attempting to make changes to my marriage... by changing my own behavior toward and outlook towards my husband. I am reading a book about how to have a happy marriage, but I am also attempting the love dare, without his knowledge to see what it can do for us...

We all know that Army life is hard and even though (as I was reminded today by someone who has known me for a VERY long time) I am a strong person... sometimes I don't know if that is a good thing or not.

When my husband and I went through our time apart it was because he started talking to someone else, but why? Was it his fault? NO, he took responsibility for his own actions... for starting the emotional affair, but I needed to take the blame for my part in it... does that seem weak of me, or like I am from the 1930s? Damn straight it does, do you know why? Because those marriages LASTED. So, what was my sin in my marriage... I didn't NEED my husband anymore... and because of that we lost the love that we once felt for each other. I am learning that the wife is mostly responsible for keeping a marriage together... men are simple and don't need much, most are very forgiving. We as women need to look at our roles differently, we are not supposed to be our husbands equals, but his supporter.

OK, back to the subject at hand - The Love Dare - Day 1

Love is Patient

Today's Dare

The first part of this dare is fairly
simple. Although love is communicated
in a number of ways, our words often
reflect the condition of our heart. For
the next day, resolve to demonstrate
patience and to say nothing negative
to your spouse at all. If the temptation
arises, choose not to say anything. It’s
better to hold your tongue than to say
something you’ll regret.

I am reading the dares the night before I am supposed to do them... and reviewing them in the morning while Jason is at work.

Love is patient... ugg... really... even though this is easy. I did and will struggle with this everyday. I don't think I was born with this quality.

Every time I wanted to lose my temper with Jason today, when he did something that I had asked him to do, but wrong (not the way I would have done it). Instead of belittling him or fussing, nagging, bitching... I reminded myself of something that Jason has done right, and told him I love him... Thank you for (insert good thing here). It seemed to work, though he didn't notice. He may notice that something is different by day..... 32! lol.